It seems that no one likes to make mistakes; however, mistakes can provide valuable learning experiences. I have made one or two
The only way to avoid making mistakes is never to do anything. Actually, that is also a mistake, but it is more comfortable to most people than trying something and failing. After all, if you never try anything, no one will notice. They will notice, though, if you try and mess up. That is an attitude that will keep you locked in failure and will stop you from achieving all that you could.
When you attempt new things, you will make mistakes and you will fail. Every successful person has stories of failure—they just may not tell them. Here is how you can turn your mistakes into lessons that will help you to succeed.
First ask why you did not succeed. What went wrong? How could you do it better next time? Be honest with yourself. Do not blame others. Take responsibility for what you did wrong.
Can you make changes and try again? My first business was a complete failure. However, I analyzed what I did wrong and came back with a new business. In the new business, I made sure that I fixed the mistakes I made the first time, and did things differently. This time, it worked! My business has been successful since I started in, in 1994.
Be willing to walk away. Maybe the mistake was trying this particular action. It may be that what you attempted was just not right for you or your business. Sometimes the best lesson is not to try, try again, but to recognize when something is not a good fit and move on to something else.
Of course, the best way to learn from mistakes is to learn from someone else’s mistakes. Most of us have trouble doing that, though. We see something fail and think, well, it failed because that person wasn’t smart enough, or didn’t do it well enough, or just, well, wasn’t me.
You may be right. You may be able to succeed where someone else failed. But do not neglect the lessons of their failure. What mistakes did they make? How could they have done things better? And what will you do to make sure you do not repeat their mistakes?
Changing your mindset about mistakes can make it easier to take the risk and try new things. When you realize that every mistake is a chance to learn something, then mistakes become less scary.
Oh, and one last thing: Most of the time, the only person who will remember your mistake six months later is you. So stop worrying about what other people will think and get on with it.
“Be willing to walk away” is great advice, Cathy. To add to that … stop being so pig-headed and stubborn! I’m guilty of sticking with something even when I realize it’s not working because I’m too darned proud and DETERMINED to see it through. Letting go is hard. And forgiveness is even harder. But we all need to forgive ourselves for the mistakes we’ve made and know that we’re in a big boatload of people who have certainly made their fair share of mistakes, too. Welcome to life! 🙂
You might want to read The Dip, by Seth Godin. It is a quick read, but it has good advice on how to know when to see something through and when to walk away.
Some good lessons here, but I would like to add on and mention also there is usually a lot of emotional discomfort or pain associated with making a mistake, therefore many times people will just avoid doing anything at all because they are afraid of the pain it may cause them. It’s important to not worry about every little mistake you’re going to make because you surely will make them, but to allow the mistake just pass and be done with. Do not dwell on your mistakes or the pain it may cause because just like everything in life it will come and go. Time will heal all of your mistakes!
In true entrepreneurial spirit the inventor of the aluminum can, Bill Coors, spoke at the annual Coors convention where he talked about failing over and over trying to successfully develop an aluminum can. Each failure led him to making changes that would eventually lead to success. It was a lesson I never forgot and share with my clients to this day.
Joseph, that is a good example. Failure isn’t final. As long as you learn from it, it is just a step in the process.